Five Helpers to Remain Calm
“How do you manage to remain calm?” asked a colleague the other day. I have various tools for coping with what challenges me. I write about them here so you may find ideas for strengthening your ability to remain calm when challenged, too.
Five helpers to remain calm
I have five helpers that I turn to, not necessarily in the following order:
- Prayer/ Meditation
- Quick Coherence
- The Artist’s Way
- The Sedona Method
- Crystals and Essential Oils
I don’t usually call on all of them at the same time, but I turn to at least two daily, in various combinations.
1. Prayer/ Meditation:
Surrender to What Is
Every day, I pray and/or meditate. There are many ways to pray and meditate – what they all have in common, is the willingness of the prayer/meditator to surrender to what is. It is a way to surpass the ego, be in the present moment, and acknowledge a greater force than our own.
This is the greatest helper of all. When you connect with something larger than yourself, you can’t feel alone, and you can’t feel that your problems are so important that they should have as much power over you as they are trying to have. Praying and meditation put daily issues in a larger perspective which makes you realise most of it is an illusion anyway.
2. Quick Coherence:
In emergencies I practice Quick Coherence – I take a few seconds to five minutes to breathe through my heart, and all is well in my world. Read more about it here.
3. The Artist’s Way:
Every day, first thing in the morning, I write for half an hour, or three pages. I’ve learned to do this from Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way. I don’t write anything in particular – I just write whatever comes to mind or decides to flow from my pen (yes, I write on good ol’ paper with a fountain pen but you can also type). No-one gets to read these scribbles! It’s a great way to start the day and writing these ‘Morning Pages’ helps to be proactive rather than reactive, during the day. It also helps to (re)connect with my creativity, which allows for my thoughts and actions to be in alignment with my heart and my soul.
4. The Sedona Method:
Let go of Unhelpful Thoughts
When things bother me more or longer than they should, I use The Sedona Method. This easy to use but hugely effective tool has changed my life and helps me understand my imaginary limitations and to be free of them. Read more about it here.
5. Crystals and Essential Oils:
Nourish Your Soul
Instead of eating so called comfort food that makes me feel sick afterwards, I comfort and nourish my senses and my soul with crystals and essential oils – they make the world a lot more beautiful and bearable. Read more about it here and here.